How Do You Get Past Your FEAR?

I get this a lot lately... How do you get past your fear? Well, the answer isn't so cut and dry. Some say just do it. But when you're petrified it's hard to do that. Especially when you have outside influences hindering you like, we're in a recession or depression or whatever they're calling it now. Stop buying into that crap first of all. Start focusing on how someone, right now, is making money in this economy. Why not you?
According to Wikipedia the definition of Fear is: an emotional response to threats and danger. But for some it's much deeper than that. I won't go into all that because we ALL experience fear at some point in our lives. The bottom line is if you concentrate on your fear, you will keep it going and it will only get stronger. On the other side of the coin, if you concentrate on what you want, you will keep it going and it will only get stronger. Did I just repeat myself? Um, yeah well sort of! What I'm pointing out here is that whatever you concentrate on gets attention and becomes stronger.
As a kid I was always terrified to go off the high dive. I was petrified with fear! For weeks and weeks I really wanted to try it, especially since ALL my friends were having a blast diving off there. They kept getting in line to continue jumping off of it. Then I saw a tiny little 6 year old waiting in line. She had NO fear of climbing up that tall ladder to the steep board above, then jumping off it into the water. I watched her several times until I finally decided that if she could do it so could I. Somewhere within myself I had to muster up the courage to do it. After all I rationalized that if she survived it without a scratch, then so could I, right? So I climbed up that tall ladder and froze for a couple seconds on the board, almost talking myself out of it and facing the shame of climbing back down the ladder, but I kept reminding myself of the little girl, then I just jumped! It was the RUSH of a lifetime! I DID IT!!! I was 11 at the time, but I still remember that feeling of conquering my fear.
That's exactly how I felt when I made my first offer! I had that same feeling! I DID IT, I DID IT!!! I conquered another fear again! It gets easier with each deal, but you have to just jump in at some point. No one said it would be easy, but then again it's not that hard either. I'm speaking from experience of course. Look back to see if there was a time in your childhood you had a terrifying fear of something that you overcame. I'm sure there's a similar story in everyone's life like my high dive story.
Again, Fear is: an emotional response to threats and danger. There is NO threat or eminent danger to making deals. Especially if you have done your due diligence you've eliminated the risk. Of course, you must have your exit strategies in place and it's basically that simple.
So what is your fear? Mine was making the cold calls and talking to the sellers of homes I'd found, it may be the same for some of you, or it may be making the offer, or locking up the deal. Locking up a contract was NOT a fear for me, but in order to get to that point I had to make a call and talk to a seller first. But once I did it a couple of times, that fear subsided too. Practice with a friend or family member. But whatever you fear, you gotta muster up the courage and defeat it. Just close your eyes and jump in, that's what that 11 year old girl did and she's been doing it every since, and so can you! Eye-wink
Finally, I wanted to share this little video I found on Youtube to show you how simple it is to get what you want:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU4N-J6TVYo&eurl=http://daily.finerminds....

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I KNOW DEAN WILL PROBLY NEVER SEE THIS BUT I HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE! DEAN I HAVE ONE OF THE MOST TRAGIC STORIES YOU WILL EVER HEAR,IVE BEEN ON THE STREETS SINCE 10 AT 12 I LOST MY LEG IN A TRAIN ACCIDENT ALL MY LIFE HAS BEEN ONE TRAGIC AFFAIR AFTER ANOTHER.I TRULY KNOW YOUR PROGRAM
CAN BREAK THE CHAIN OF POVERTY AND CREATE A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN NEVER DREAMED OF!prison drugs and misery has been a way of life and one morning i flew out of bed to call your program,I BELEAVE IN YOU AND YOU PROGRAM BUT I CANT EVEN GET MEDICAL TO EVEN HELP MYSELF RIGHT NOW AND THATS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICEBURG. I HAVE ONE OF THE MOST POWERFULL STORIES YOU CANT EVEN IMAGINE
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YET IM SURE THERE ARE PROBLY THOUSANDS WWHO HAVE ASKED THE SAME? yet i have nothing to lose because you see i do beleave in miricles and kindness in this world please atleast read this if it ever gets to you (wich i doubt) but yet i can dream cant I!!!!! with hope and respect tony s.

hard luck

steve moore's picture

Well all I can say is just buy the book second hand if you have too graigs list E Bay I also don;t have 2 or 3 thusand dollars or what ever it cost I have no clue as to the cost . But we all have our tales of woe . I live in my car just kicked a crack habbit BUT I WILL NOT BE DENIED if I found money for drugs BY GOD I WILL find the Money for my future I would think if you have lived thru what you said you would be one TUFF SOB so grow a pair if you don't already have them or just fake it till you make it if there is a will there is a way so bro find the way dean is telling us there is but he can't do it all or even why would he . I will get it done and that is all you have to convince yourself of I can I WILL
GOOD LUCK

Overcoming the fear and uncertainty

Indiana-Joe's picture

I found this posting on fear to be relevant for most new just starting investors that I know. Some seasoned investors have the fear and it is a good gut check to have them review the numbers on the deal. Fear and uncertainty can hold back people from accomplsihing extraordinary things. I believe the "Just do it" attitude is the best. Thanks for sharing this insight. Believe and Achieve! Smiling

Just Do It!

For me, I always found that I had to go ahead and do it with the fear, because the fear didn't go away until I got to the other side. I must share some quirky sayings I learned in AA (I am now 25 years sober):

"It doesn't matter how you think or feel, it just matters what you do"

"Action is the only way to counteract depression"

"You don't have to like something in order to do it"

"If it was easy, anybody could do it"

"First things first"

Here is a quick prayer before going to do something that scares you to death:

"God remove my fear and direct my attention to what you would have me be"

offers on properties

hi everyone, here's y delema, I put offers in on 2 properties Yahoooo , no fear there, however the realtor came back with I have to have a proof of funds letter, my plan was to hand off the properties to an investor i found. Now I'm in a state of stand still , does anyone know what I can or should do now. The investor wants to know if the offers were accepted, I cant give the man an answer Help please.

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Elena M's picture

Don't panic. There are lenders like Coastal Funding that will give you pof letter. Find a lender that works with investors. I know there are posts about it on here somewhere. They even fund you for deals provided you have a buyer lined up.
Good luck, hope this helps!

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