Dealing with an Agressive Seller

Dealing with an Agressive Seller

Hey Guys,

I want to tell about an experience I had, trying to put together a deal, which I ended up having to move on from.
The seller would not give me the proper respect in order for us to do business together and make a win-win situation. He viewed me being not smart or capable enough to arrange the deal, and insisted I tell him everything about what I was doing, how I was finding buyers, how much I was making in the deal, and also insisted that I was being dishonest with him for having a friend who is more experienced help me through the deal process. Instead of dealing with all this, I just bagged it and moved on. It is an example of one of the obstacles you must overcome being a new investor, with no experience. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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Keep Pushing Joe

I happen to KNOW you did the right thing. Realizing it was a great deal I know it was a hard thing but never let anyone belittle you just because you are new in the game. Learn from this a DO YOUR THING.

Like I have told you before

YOU
CAN
DO
IT!

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"FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION"


smart move

translation: the SELLER was a jerk!@#?,son of a ?%$#$%,smart move,moving on...YOUR HERO,SULLY.

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YOUR HERO, SULLY


LOL

Sully you crack me up sometimes. But good observance on that one.

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Thanks!

Thanks ANITA!

Thanks SULLY!

That's so great to hear!


next

Just use the word next and move on don't let anyone steal your dream

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Mr.Bill


Scully

Your cool, you tell it like you see it.


why thank you young lad

your pretty super yourself, JC, YOUR HERO,SULLY.

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YOUR HERO, SULLY


Aggressive "seller"?

The jerk just beat himself out of a deal!
jrgnsn

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jrgnsn


Agressive Seller

I' ve been sales for about 28 years and I've encountered this kind of try to be intimidating buyer. I would have said in a very professional manner thank you for your time and you are a f--- in a hole in 1! and walk out knowing that I left with my pride and my head held high. Next. Keep the faith.


He

He just wanted someone to use, and I wasn't willing to be that for him.


re: HE

Hi Joe

You know that I know exactly what happened. The guy was a jerk off and nothing you could have said or done would have changed that. He thought you are stupid ad when you came back at him like you did it just ****ed him off. Let it go, shake it off and learn from it. That is exactly how you DO NOT want to treat other peeps.

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hey

Good call, Joe.
You can only leave the time-vampires in the dust.


I don't know if I agree with the advice people are giving you.

I will not applaud you for walking away from the deal.

I've been investing for over 15 years and I'm not new to this sort of demeanor, so I'll tell you what, sometimes we have to deal with people whom we'd, not in "real life", be friends with. I don't agree with most everyone's posts above. So you had to take a little crap, we all do, it's the nature of the beast, real estate is not for the weak of heart. Next time DO THE DAM DEAL, get paid for it, and move to the next. You've already invested time, energy, and you've already had to take some crap, but now you've got nothing to show for it.

Question: What if this guy was testing you? You told him you were new, maybe he wanted to see what you were made of. Maybe he was testing you for the future? Maybe this guy had friends of friends that you could have helped. You'll never know because you walked away.

I don't wonder what you've lost from this one particular deal, I wonder what you potently walked away from down the road. Few people will show you their cards from day one, you may have lost a whale, because you didn't want to deal with his attitude. NOT EVERYONE IS LIKE DEAN, not everyone will care about you, or will they thank you for your honesty. If you walk away from every deal that has a challenging advisory, you're going to have a very ruff road ahead of you.

Take my words for how they're meant. I'm not trying to be discouraging, but you need to thicken your skin and not lose sight of the goal. This is about MONEY, don't forget that. Sometimes we all have to take some crap.

Dean never said this will be easy....it's not.....get to work and go get that next deal, you need to makeup for the one you walked from.

Good Luck,
Nick


WOW !! good post.

Hey Nick,
Is nice to see this other way of thinking, I believe you can be right or not but is always good to hear other opinions from a different point of view. To tell you the true with out knowing the details I believe both decisions can be correct (walk away or keep dealing with the person) you don't know the end result unless you go for it. I personaly had experiences where you just have to walk away but others where you get going and have great results (you learn to choose your battles) so bottom line is that we don't lose sight of the goal (like you are saying). I really appretiate all the comments above especially Nick's that just give us a different point of view.

Daniel.

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nzamucen

Nick,

Thanks for your advice but that wasn't the case. I had a clear understanding of the situation, and it was foul. And I will not compromise my personal integrity for money, no matter what the cost. There are plenty of deals out there.


Time Vampires

Thanks Paul


Joepthebeat

Just saw this post. You did the absolute right thing! I totally disagree with Nick. We get into this business to be free from people like your seller. If it stinks then walk. That is the advantage of being your own boss, you can walk away from unnecessary stress. I hope you dished a little back before giving him the boot!

KimmyJ
Press on...


KimmyJ

Thanks Kimmy


dealing with aggresive seller

Good for you, that was an awesome right on decision.

I had an experience something like that, only two against one, husband and wife. At the time I just remembered in Deans books or lessons from the success academy that there is a time to just walk away. That's what I did, I said I guess you are not open to such a good deal, and I packed up and left. They didn't even try to stop me but at that point I wanted out of there.

There is always another opportunity. When thing like that happens, God will bless us more abundantly 10 fold, something much better comes from him to take it's place. Keep up the good work.
Barbi

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Barbi


dealing with aggresive seller

Good for you, that was an awesome right on decision.

I had an experience something like that, only two against one, husband and wife. At the time I just remembered in Deans books or lessons from the success academy that there is a time to just walk away. That's what I did, I said I guess you are not open to such a good deal, and I packed up and left. They didn't even try to stop me but at that point I wanted out of there.

There is always another opportunity. When thing like that happens, God will bless us more abundantly 10 fold, something much better comes from him to take it's place. Keep up the good work.
Barbi

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Barbi


Agree or not

nzamucen
I like that that is the true heart of a sales person, true you can't get discouraged, being tough is part of being an investor. I think we all need to be flexible to the way the nature of a situation can change. Thanks for the heads up.

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Barbi


Try This

joepthebeat wrote:
Hey Guys,

I want to tell about an experience I had, trying to put together a deal, which I ended up having to move on from.
The seller would not give me the proper respect in order for us to do business together and make a win-win situation. He viewed me being not smart or capable enough to arrange the deal, and insisted I tell him everything about what I was doing, how I was finding buyers, how much I was making in the deal, and also insisted that I was being dishonest with him for having a friend who is more experienced help me through the deal process. Instead of dealing with all this, I just bagged it and moved on. It is an example of one of the obstacles you must overcome being a new investor, with no experience. Has anyone had a similar experience?

Next time you say nothing! Im here to purchase ! Do you want to sell?? As a seller the only thing he needs to know is that you will do him a favor and MAY take this property off his hands. If they want advice call an attorney... Im a buyer Thats all I am !!