Weekly Wisdom #251 - Part of the Solution

I think we all tend to be our own problems...just keep working on solutions!!

Hi Dean: Another Excellent Blog.I guess I am part of the problem.Now I will be part of the solution. Thanks Dean for all your help,and education. Carol in Texas

I've heard it said that "If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem". I' always trying to be part of the solution.

Another great WW.

Andy Sager
DG's AndyS
CFIC and IE member

Dear Dean, what a great piece of advise or as you say "weekly wisdom". I agree wholeheartedly. We tend to point a finger vs. looking in the mirror.
Thanks again for all you do for everybody.
Regards,
Kevine

Reminds me of what I wrote on my goals, to focus on understanding others not trying to change them. Better communication is definitely something this guy needs:)

thanks Dean!

I don't see myself as a problem because I am finding solutions.

Thank you Dean for not only the weekly wisdom, but the emails reminding me that I havent been around in a while! It all keeps bringing me back right here!

Hey, Dean nice video. Steven Covey wrote in his 7 habits of successful people book one of the 7 habits was to 1st be understood. So essential. You're negotiating with the seller, working out that problem with your spouse, or (you startd this) explaing the 5 second rule.

Keep'em coming.

You got me to thinking.. How do I fall into the victim mindset? It is so easy to do, especially when life throws you curve balls and situations seem to get in the way. I really appreciate theses words of wisdom today!

Hi Dean How true it is. I know because I am part of my problem I keep thinking that I will fail and I make it so. I can do this but I still don't do it but I now have my doctor and he wants me to bring him some houses to look at and I was sure it would fail but if it dose so whaT !!! I will still be here and can sell those houses to someone else. It would be his lose. I was so glad to here your comments this WEEK ,just what I needed. You help me so much and for that I am really glad to have found you and your real estate I am going to get this done that is all there is to it!!!!! TO GET THUR IT I NEED TO GET TO IT

CROSSOVER SANDRA

When you victimize yourself you take away from you the responsibility and blame everyone for your problems. That won't solve your problems, it will increase them.

But, when you take responsibility and says it's my fault or I'm the one that needs to change, your mindset change. Your start working on what needs to be changed and improve yourself.

Thanks for the WW!!!!
Greetings,

IK

I have always been my own worst enemy and don't seem to be able to get past it. I've been lurking for 2 years trying to convince ME to just do it. I have no outside pressures telling me I can't do this, but I can't figure out the solution for ME.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks. Mark

Hi, Dean!

Another great weekly wisdom! The saying "If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem." is one of my favorite sayings. I've never really thought of myself as having a *victim* mindset before but I guess I really do because I just realized that I play the blame game all the time. So from here forward I'll try to catch myself from doing that and reaffirm that no one has that kind of control over me or my business and that I'm the one who's in control of what happens to me. No one else. I'm going to start looking for a way to get over the obstacles and resolve the issues in my path knowing it will be up to me to accept the blame or bask in the glory for the results of my efforts. The buck stops here.

That sounded like me a year ago. Although I took ownership and action for the situation that I was in and tried various ways to get my self out of that hole nothing worked, I began to get depressed as well as starting to believe that I would be in this predicament for eternity and so I began to blame others for my decision. Then one day I finally found a way out through a lead that contacted me. During my life, especially the last 6 years I have done a lot of Research and Development. I must say this: EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON and If I had not gotten myself in that previous situation I would never have become aware of and participate in a much bigger opportunity and become a DGIE member and network with like minded people. Past situations either allow you to grow / present additional opportunities as a result of the situations OR you can allow them to let you become the victim of self pity
WHICH DO YOU CHOOSE BE?? I have chosen to move on and grow and take advantage of the additional opportunities as a result of the Research and Development that I have done...LIFE IS TOO SHORT I WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!! I am currently working on getting a unit rent ready that I had purchased...and I am working on getting A people on my team...Taking Action towards a GREAT Tomorrow! Thanks Dean again for a great Weekly Wisdom and never giving up on us

I allowed myself to be overwhelmed and bombarded with distractions- I appreciate the KICK in the right place...

p.s. I sat down with an Realtor Saturday pass!

Thanks Dean for all you do for us!

I just wanted to leave a message regarding last week's WW............just a litte Worldly Wisdom from one parent to another.

Please keep in mind that you are where you are today BECAUSE of your upbringing. It has made you who you are. Please don't take these precious "growing" opportunities away from your children. Don't make their life so easy and give them everything they want and need because you did not have these things.

I only say this from 1st hand experience myself...for instance, I would not appreciate my college degree if I did not have to work for it. If my parent's handed it to me on a silver platter, I would not appreciate it the way I do--since I ended up paying for most of it myself. This is just one example.

Just something to keep in mind : )

Thanks again for everything and this week's wisdom. It is always easier to point a finger at someone else. We have to remember that when we point one finger, there are three pointing back at us.

Take care..........Have a great week!
Lynn

Hi Dean, back in my "nay sayer" days or "blaming" days, I always found it easier to blame than to own my faults. A few years ago my mindset has changed and I can't help but tell others they have control of their actions, not their circumstances. I feel now no matter what happens, that I don't have problems I have solutions. There is always a solution even if it means to just accept it and move on. Thank you for sharing this.

Thanks again.
I like to think of "what will be" if I only change "what I think, say, and more importantly, DO."
The possibilities are endless.

Valiant

I wish I would've had someone give me this message about 20 years ago. I remember saying that if only my father hadn't taken us away from California we would've had a better life and all three brothers would've been set instead of being broke, and it was always my father's fault. I realized on my own that if I wanted things to change, I had to stop blaming my father. I've been looking for the right business to make that happen, now I found it, I know it's RE and I'm glad you were there at 3 in the a.m. cause if it hadn't been for you I would have no hope of getting my family to a better life. I am making offers and learning more from you and Matt but I still haven't made my first deal. I know it will come soon and I won't give up, there's nothing else for me. If I don't make it in RE there's nothing else for me. I'm through looking for the right business. This is it.
Thanks Dean,
God bless you and you're family.
-Angel.

Such a great inspiration!!

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Thanks Dean. Sometimes those walls can get pretty wide tall and deep.
Corry

I love the motivation and information you share with us but I haven't got starred due to finances.. I have an investor that send me wholesale deals and I can't fund them , any suggestions anyone ?

I was trying to explain the same exact thing to some one just yesterday about understanding each other and that person didn't want to hear it and feels that they are the victim instead of part of the problem and I tried to suggest a reasonable solution to the person and they wanted no part of it, its funny you do this weekly wisdom this week.. I'll have to let that person watch this weekly wisdom. Thanks Dean.

Thanks Dean for the Wisdom, you are correct when you say don't blame others take responsibility we control our thoughts and actions.

Dean I am calling tomorrow and getting into the success academy, I want to start off right.

Thanks for everything you do.

Ray

You know I have had so much going on lately. I do believe you just hit the nail on the head. Thank you Dean. You are so full of wisdom and knowlede. Thank you so much.

When face with circumstances and situations sometimes it seems like they will back you in a corner or hold you down. Listening to your resolution to solving a problem is a great way to handle a situation. No matter how bad a problem may appear we have to find a way to solve it. Have an positive attitude and never give up. Find a way to make it happen.

Great message Dean.Your a true inspiration to up incoming entrepreneurs such as myself.

Hi Dean,
This is a very interesting perception. Many of us, including myself don't see with the same eyes you do. Thank you for bringing the problem (darkness) to a solution (light). Great weekly wisdom!!

Your rite , I'm the problem . I have to deal the cards or I can't play the game.thanks for that motivation .

Thats what I call a blame-away. Excuses that you create when you should of been doing something to reach a goal.