Weekly Wisdom #335 - Do You Want My Personal iPad?

I'm working on getting rid of my fear of success so I'm not placing that as an obstacle since it's a work in progress. Sometimes you need someone to give you a break. I've never had a break given to me by someone that was life changing or turned the tide in my life in a huge way.

My biggest obstacle is realizing I'm doing this full-time while my husband works in his career to make ends meet... and 4 of my first deals I tried to wholesale backed out. At first I was shocked that things can go so wrong but instead of getting angry..which I tend to show..this time I held back regrouped and surprised myself my husband had no idea a deal went wrong. I'm happy I refrained myself from letting these deals, that all fell in 2 weeks, did not get the best of me. I kept reminding myself that out of this something good has to come. I can go on and on with details, which will stun anyone but ALL I know is that I haven't gave up but I'm still on the hunt for my first deal..putting those obstacles aside and hoping everyday that fear stays aside with them so that I push through. I want and need that first deal for my family's future.

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Jeannette

First thing is trying to figure out why i could less about the i pad, i guess its my selflessness to survive homelessness the cold at night the fist fights with the deranged just to survive out here. But my greatest fear is missing my opportunity god has given me, throughout all this bad luck i think i have revolutionized real estate instead of making 1500 per month with a rental you can easily make 7 times that amount legally. My greatest fear is i will die out here and not change real estate for the future thanks for your ear.

I used to be optimistic, full of energy. I am struggling with weight and the fear of failure, of not doing it right. I hear RE agents talk that the area is picked over, nothing left,,,, In some ways I feel I am too old to get this off the ground. I was up last night watching some videos on the site and began to feel more confident about some aspects. I just keep making excuses; wait till this gets finished, or wait till I loose some weight, or clean up the yard,,,, I need to break the circular excuse spiral. I am so very thankful and grateful to have you as a coach!
"Success is going from one failure to another without a loss of enthusiasm"

I have 2 obstacles. The first is not understanding the paperwork and legal aspects involved. I have read and listened to and looked over the contracts hundreds of times but I'm still afraid that I'll get something wrong. I feel like I need to shadow someone and watch them make several deals in front of me before I will feel comfortable enough to do it on my own.
The second problem is my lack of computer skills. I have taken classes but they don't go over what I need to learn. I have also had my nephews try to teach me but they go too fast and don't want to wait for me to take notes. Those are my 2 biggest obstacles.

Tammy

My biggest fear is that I am not good enough to do the job or that I don't deserve recognition for the work that I have done. I look at what other people have done, and I think that I should work harder or longer and then maybe I will create an adequate product.

Hi Dean,

My personal Fear is letting down my family and making a financial mistake. Not a small one, but one that ensures we have to sell the house and pull my son out of the school he loves.

He has Autism and has finally found a great school here in Florida. While we have no gain without risk, taking a mitigated risk is still achievable.

Seeing an abundance of opportunity versus a minefield of failure is a pure mental game.

Philip

Hi Dean my biggest obstacle is strangely enough what the majority of people on here have, the fear of what others think of me because when someone is successful they are held to certain standards that I feel I dont measure up to that type of person. I feel that I am not worthy because I dont have higher education and I cant see myself being like that, I fantasize about it but I feel it is unreachable and I put it in a place called just a dream. I desire it but I feel that it's for "other" people, not me.

Thank YOU for all your wisdom and giving so much of your time to help with the stinking thinking!

I have a fear of starting a real estate deal and screwing up so bad I can't fix the problem or getting into hot water so bad I get sued or I wind up owing money that I can't pay back because I didn't know how to fill out a contract or didn't know how to go about a close or double close in escrow and it falls apart on me and then I can't get anyone out in the real estate community to work with me again.
It paralyzes me and I can't get out of first gear!!
I can't pull the trigger on my first deal.
I made an offer once and it got accepted and then I couldn't get rid of the property so I pull out of the deal.
I also have a tremendous problem with procrastination and need self motivation.

Hi Dean, My biggest fear or road block is ME. I hate/love to get up in front of people and speak. I hate it because I let myself become intimidated by the thoughts that run through my head, I love it because I really enjoy helping others succeed in their RE investment. I am told I'm such an inspiration but sometimes I just don't believe it. But when I do believe in me, I'm on Fire!!!! I listen and follow you religiously. Thank you for making me stronger.

Bill Roberts

My biggest obstacle is that I have tied my sense of well being and value to actually doing the work. And that has worked out so well so far that I am not sure what I would do with myself if I did not fill all my time with things "I have to do." This prevents me from leveraging a lot of things.

My biggest fear ( right now) is that I have been a career Firefighter for nearly 36 years and part-time full-time farmer all my life.... With retirement looming on the horizon, my fear is not being able to afford to keep my own home built on family property. Buying/selling real estate has always intrigued me, it seems to be such a simple proposition. I will plenty of spare time soon.

woody2, I buy and sell houses both from wholesalers and occasionally as a wholesaler. I would be interested in swapping ideas and actual cases you have with you. We may be able to come up with better ideas for both of us or see some flaws in each of our deals. Let me know if you are interested. I am at gregcarrier@****

I am my own worst obstacle. I have the same pattern in my life. I get excited about many things, however when I reach the point of succeeding I throw a wall up and I ask myself WHY do I do this?. I am working through this in baby steps.

My biggest obstacle is my over analysis. I analyze every deal, situation from every imaginable angle. My medical training has taught me to analyze, analyze and analyze some more. This serves me well in some areas of my life but there are times when you have to stop analyzing and act. As a new real estate investor this is my goal -- to do the necessary analysis then make a decision to make the deal or to move on. Don't waste so much time on analyzing unrealistic angles.

Currently at the stage in my life, I feel that my biggest obstacle is trying to get my wife engaged in bettering our futures as I am. She is supportive but from a distance, I am 100% engaged in our future and always talking about different ideas and etc. I find ways to motivate myself not necessarily waiting for her or anyone to motivate me as I know ultimately I am responsible for my life. However I do know that having her 100% engaged in improving ourselves for our future then we can definitely go further.

The need for flexibility:
I am in my 60s, imagining a life style that more flexible lifestyle that allows for some time to me. So I am worried that starting a business will be a 24/7 job.

The Fear of Touching Your Nest Egg
Since I do not have much fund to invest and touching my savings later in life can be scary and I need to be protective over what I have. I cannot ask money to friends and family since they are not supporting to my idea as REI.

Lack of finding 1st good deal that I can flip.

I am not a complete person.
God has bestowed many gifts and talents on me. The Christ has adopted me into His one, holy, catholic, and apostolic family, the Church. Brought me into a loving and vibrant earthly family. Provided many great friends, skills, and opportunities. It seems the Holy Ghost can accomplish whatever He wants to through me.
Yet there is an element missing. It has been suggested that having a worthy spouse would instill the stability, support, and motivation which would be wholesomely complimentary and lead to the life of abundance that Dean mentions. Perhaps I have been detracted from this by my arrogance, fear of divorce, being too picky, or by the influence of Satan through the Marxist destruction of the family and promotion of immorality in our society and throughout the world. Perhaps I have just not met the right woman, or didn't recognize her when I did meet her.
I believe that if my generation had been given the instruction on how to build healthy, happy, lifelong relationships that is being given to some youth now, life would be much more advanced and better for us all.
Yet again the Lord has his work for me to do. He is constantly preparing me to reach that potential which Dean mentions — partially by giving Dean the graces to share his Weekly Wisdoms with us. And He shows us the path, through holy scripture, sacred tradition, and the magisterium, on our journeys to the Kingdom.
May we all soon overcome the fears and obstacles which are not from the Lord and reach our potentials which give glory to God our Almighty Father.

P.S. Dear Dean, your message would be more balanced if you follow the mention of our Creator in an early paragraph with a more apt adverb for "excited" in the penultimate paragraph to describe your exuberance. A dictionary or thesaurus should prove helpful.

Procrastination has cost me dearly, I just turned 43 in April and have realized that just a few minor miscalculations when I was younger have have set my life in motion in a direction that totally undesirable. When I was 18 I had the world in my hand and dreams that would blow your mind. Then life sets in and minutes turn to hours, days turn into months and in the blink of an eye 25 years has passed with no progress on my dreams......DEPRESSING!

Fear from failure not just in real estate but for my family.

My biggest obstacle is finding the right people to partner with and to have work for me. I like to do everything with a certain quality and at a certain level of efficiency.
The second biggest obstacle is the lack of support from the people in closest with.

My biggest obstacle right now is focus. With all of the things I have going on in my life, wedding in two weeks, just purchased a new personal residence and doing work there, working full-time at the golf course, and all of my business ideas, my mind is being pulled in many directions. Although a lot of my ideas could be lucrative and even have been in the past, I need to focus on one thing and put my efforts into that!

over thinking about everything until I've talked myself out of doing what ever I was thinking about

My biggest obstacle is taking the first step toward success. I have the understanding but fear making mistakes.

My biggest obstacle would be that whatever I start I have a hard time finishing. I start off strong and fizzle out halfway to the finish line. I'm my own worst enemy in talking myself out of things.

My biggest obstacle is believing I am not worth the best self I want to be. In all areas of life, its so easy to say, "Well, you're not good enough, smart enough, fast enough, or skinny enough to do ___________." Though deep down I know it is a lie, my biggest obstacle is the time I spend bargaining with the two voices in my head instead of simply rejecting the lies and moving forward full spead to my dreams.

My biggest obstacle is the fear of not being able to pay attention to other, namely my family, to persuit my goals. I also fear failing anf being rejected.

I need to focus more and be positive all the time. Thank you Dean for introducing me to Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard, Matt Larsen, Nate Armstrong, and Gena Horiatis and Andrea Weule. My life has definitely changed since I became a DG family member and I am so thankful for all the great things that have come into my life. I have yet to complete a deal, I know once I get the first one done I will be going faster, but the first deal seems to be the obstacle.
Thanks again for all of you help, encouragement and support.
Susan

Hi Dean,

My biggest obstacle to the life of my dreams has been committing to my goals and leaning in. I have a clear intention of what I want to accomplish in my life and for my business. My challenge is action. I do not act because I feel that if I lean into my intention it might not happen. This scares me and paralyzes me.
I want to create the life of my dreams and I want to create peace, unity, and joy for everyone around me.

Hi Dean. Just back from almost a month in the tropics! Obviously my fear is not travelling... I'm a contract working looking to "retire" in the fall. I think my biggest fear is of having my contract end before my real estate business is ready to replace the income. Then too... there is that whole fear of failure vs fear of not failing... Thanks Dean for the inspiration and knowledge you share.