Weekly Wisdom #335 - Do You Want My Personal iPad?

I have trouble getting the support group to work with to complete deals. I do not start projects that I am unfamiliar with.

It would be fear of failure. The engineer in me wants everything to go perfect and I don't take action to make the mistakes that would take me to where I want to be financially and in most aspects of my life.

I always seemed to be a " Day late and a dollar short" I have started only to have life change things in my life!! I know Dean that we are always to put positive thoughts into our heads! I do that, My aim is for Wholesaling but as another person has said I lack finding ready to go cash buyers!! With that said, I have to say my biggest obstacle would be fearing some realtor laughing in my face cause he or she might think it can't be done, or he or she hasn't got much experience doing wholesaling or even working with Real Estate Investors!! I feel you may know a way to change this for a person like me?? Thanks Dean for your great wisdom !!

Hey Dean! Eden here from Ethiopia.One of the major things holding me back, other than the lies I tell myself, is my lack of knowledge about the subjects that pertain to my ambitions. If I could, I would absolutely do everything and anything to beef up on necessary information for my industry. As Stephen King says, not only does a good writer write; he reads, too. But I absolutely lack the confidence. That little voice in the back of my head is most often self-defeating and quite harsh about life. The voice is my inner-critic telling me “Stop! Your window of success has passed.” I always fail to look at the bigger picture. I try to build emotional strength by working on something fantastic, something ground-breaking and mega-creative but…constantly I find that I fall into this inescapable pit of low self-esteem. I don’t know if I’m moving a step closer to my dreams because I’m always worrying so much. I have an annoying habit of clinging onto what makes me miserable or morose, when instead I should be keeping my eyes open for a change that will actually bring me the success I hoped for.When it comes to doing something important, I give myself excuses. It is not necessarily that I am physically too tired to do a task, but I simply lack the confidence to focus on what matters. This is self-sabotage, and it has held me back from my dreams constantly.

My biggest fear is "Success"! What if this works, will I know how to handle it? I have nothing holding me back except me! No more, I am out of the shadows. Thanks Dean for all you have done for me!

My biggest obstacle is lack of focus. I am going in twenty directions and net getting anywhere.

My fear is fear of success and potentially being rejected by those closest to me for following my dreams. We have been taught to follow the herd all our lives, so to break away from the mould is a big transition that requires a big shift in mindset and pull away from the comfort zone.

Love your weekly wisdom and they have been helping with preparing the mind. I have just joined your program also, so I am looking forward to meeting you in Sydney in the next few weeks!

My biggest fear has always been the fear of success. I am very driven to be successful in everything I do, but what jeopardizes most things is my fear of success and what would come after that.

Regards

Rean(South Africa)

Fear of stepping out of my comfort zone and into the unknown. I want to be able to take care of my family and am afraid of jumping in to the unknown and not succeeding.

Not having my own cash to invest in real estate...(buy, fix and flip) I feel i will not be taken seriously when getting started.

Fear of lost of love.

My biggest obstacle has been overwhelming myself with wanting to do so much at once and getting impatient when it doesn't happen, that I get paralyzed and end up not doing anything for a while. I put so much pressure on myself to get it done, that when it takes longer than anticipated, fear sets in and I start to doubt myself. It's tough to reframe my thinking to get back on track.

Michelle

Another real estate collapse, interrupting our cash flow, ultimately causing significant losses.

My biggest fear is making a mistake that would financially ruin my family.

I have only been in a position where I could not pay my bills once in my life, but I still remember how awful that was. I am 73 and have just enough money to see me and my wife through. Each month it seems that we have enough to pay for everything we need and have a little to give away to our kids and our grand-kids. I am afraid that if I start buying and selling houses, I will loose everything and get in debt in such a way I cannot pay my monthly bills. I am still physically able to do anything I want to do, but at my age it is impossible to get into the job market and get a job. I know they say that you can't discriminate because of age, but they always find a way not to talk to you seriously about a good paying job. I guess you could say that I am afraid to move out of my comfort zone.

Hey Dean,
I truly believe that I must realize, understand, and overcome the biggest obstacle in my life regarding my success in my career, in real estate investing, and any other thing that I deeply desire including family relationships. The journey to this profound realization is to absolutely accept THAT I AM MY BIGGEST OBSTACLE! Yes, that's what I think is the most important challenge at hand!

Not only must I first realize that I am the one who is holding me back, but I must search my programming, my background, my brain to understand why. What are the deep-rooted reasons why I am not reaching my goals and fulfilling my life's dreams? The answers are inside of ME!

Once I understand that, then I must take responsibility and ownership for the lack of my success - and therefore the ownership of my ability to be successful. Hey, that means that I am in control of attaining my dreams and goals!

OK... So if I am responsible, take ownership, and totally in control of my future, my success, then I must overcome this obstacle - WHICH IS ME! I am my biggest obstacle, and I believe it is the same way for each and every one of us.

With this knowledge, it is plain to see that I must do it myself. That my determination and hard work WILL MAKE THE DIFFERENCE in my life.

Wow! Hey, I gotta go now... I've got to get working on my success, my future, my happiness. I am determined to make it, and I need to get right on it!

Thanks for your motivation, positive attitude, and faith in me.

Sincerely,
Mark Eichlin

My biggest problem is trying to get my deals to work. I don't know if I'm doing every thing right. I try to find deals I can wholesale. Problems I have is I either can't get the property low enough for investors to buy or I get it to high and no one wants to pay that high. Just need help from start to finish on my first deal. So I can understand the process.

Hello Dean Sir,
My biggest fear, is lack of confident. And, being scam. I have try a couple of systems, with no luck. I also scare of trying something new. I met Russ Whitley. Not sure if I spell it right. I have a sh--ty job. Making not money. After 21 years, travel 21 miles to get to work. For only $9.75 an hour. I have trouble making ends meet. I was turn down for food stamps.
Anyway, I went to that Thann Marrow, seminar. Pay the two hundred. And after the seminar. To proceed they wanted over $1400 to start.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. LOL.
Thank you,
Armando.

My biggest fear is fear of failure, I don't like to lose and I don't like being bad at anything. It frustrates the heck out of me. It's just getting over the not knowing until I feel comfortable in that role, but then once I master it I get bored and I start looking for something new.

doing what I was called to be doing.

My biggest fear is a do all that I am to do and still no better than I am now ;(

Getting started. Finding the right group with experience who don't mind working with a newbie without criticism. Who will be honest and realize they were once a newbie and somebody help them somewhere at some point in their life. And to know it's not All about the money only with all investors. Gaining experience can be more valuable especially for newbies. Thank you Dean for always thinking of US. And mot throwing US a bunch of info and leave US hanging. This group is an example of who you are and shows how much you care about our success not only your pocket. For this I thank You.

Hi Dean,

My biggest obstacle is taking CONSISTENT action and trying to do things perfectly. I have gotten better at taking action, however it's not enough. I'll feel good about making calls to realtors and getting on their email list, then I stop there as apposed to doing that step and the next and so on until a transaction is complete. something stops me one way or the other. I so desire to FINISH something that I start to the point of reaping financially for it.. I tend to believe that I need someone along the way telling me step-by-step what to do until it's done, even after I've read, taking notes, and read some more... I invest in myself as often as I can, however still no real results!

Hey Dean,
This is my second time watching this. I saw it Saturday, and I just finished watching it this morning ( Monday).

For a long time a big fear fear was listening to my voice while I talk on the phone. I do not like the sound of my voice on machines, or when I speak sometimes. I have developed enough confidence to push past that fear even though I still think about the way that I sound to myself and others.

Another fear that I live with is drifting through life not being able to accomplish the things that I want , or set out to do. I start many things, but do not finish. When money challenges come my way, I make a detour. The challenges could be good, as in educational tools, or opportunities to associate; but I usually do not have the funds to take advantage of them at that time.

I am in my forties, and I am constantly thinking about the things that I have accomplished in life. I have accomplished many things, but they have been many small things that needed to be done for survival, such as food, shelter, and income.

I have never owned a major credit card that was not a debit card, so many large purchases, or opportunities have been "out of reach", even with a payment plan.

I do not have and have never really owned many material possessions, because most of my money have gone towards taxes and household expenses. Over the years friends would ask if I would ever get married, because "things would be a lot better" with two incomes; and I have thought about this.

I have joined this platform, insider elite, taken advantage of your books, and implemented many of the strategies to see some success. Thanks!!! I really love and appreciate your relentless personality. I am certain that others who have taken years to see little rewards are grateful for your mindset, willingness, and determination to "stay in the trenches" in order to help as many folks as you can. Thank you, I am so very grateful for the encourage meant. Because of the years of reading and associating, I have been able to push past naysayers and negative comments towards my goals that were "out of the normal " way of thinking.

Now, I must continue forward when I see little income coming into the household. I am currently in a situation where I ceased an opportunity, because I sacrificed the first payment, but I do jot have the remainder. These situations causes stress that I am constantly battling throughout my life with everything, because of little money leftover after household expenses.

We all have our life stories, so I will stop here lol. I know you did not ask for an autobiography lol.

My biggest fear is not being able to see the rewards of my efforts.....like so many times before!
Thanks for your concern,

Anthony Davis

My biggest Fear/Obstacle is not to have enough money to close a deal.. If I could do a "Subject To" deal and the seller is paying the closing costs, and the first two mortgages, than I would be fine and could do the deal, when it is a good deal for another investor buyer or home buyer..

Udo

My biggest fear is that I don't have enough of whatever it takes to get where I want to go or what I want. It leads to more Analysis Paralysis looking into more information than necessary and still not able to pull the trigger.

Thanks Dean,

Kelly

Buying and selling property has ALWAYS been my dream and about 12yrs ago i had an investor and to make a long story short i dropped the ball do to fear of failure and now my "stinkin thinkin" is telling me my opportunity has passed and i missed the boat BUT i will overcome this!
Thanks Dean for being consistent and taking time with your video's!

Hi Dean, My biggest fear is not succeeding in my business ventures. Fear of failure and being rejected by my customers. So my biggest hold up is procrastination...in other words if I don't venture out I won't fail. This gives me excuses to put off what I know I need to do.

My new mantra is one by Tom Bradley that says: "The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you."

finding my true " Why" .....to keep me motivated every day, week, month.....to take action.....

Dean,

My biggest fear is that I am responsible for supporting my family and I will let them down by leaving them with a lack and limitation legacy.

Saverio