Weekly Wisdom #259 - Check Ya'Self

Hi Dean,

I guess we have all been there...those uncomfortable conversations that you wish would end right after they just started. Or better yet; wish they had never begun.

It's usually family that feels the need to update you on every negative event they think you may have missed. But beleive me...I haven't missed any of it at all!!

I have purposely distanced myself from it because I view negativity as toxic and I want no part of it. Life is too short. Time is precious and I choose being optimistic.

Hope you have a wonderful week!

Thank you for this awesome message -- Gratitude is the key to success and fulfillment! Focus on the great things you're blessed with and not everything that's wrong...

Best to you!
NLB

Thanks Dean for more weekly wisdom. I guess Dean everyone's family and old friends we get together with are the same all over the USA. I hear the same story's

Steve

Great topic! I've been feeling the same way lately. I've even customized my Facebook account so that repeat negativity offenders are no longer in my news feed (I've cut the connection with the really bad ones). I've purposefully stacked my twitter account by following comedians and other positive thinking people (comedians might complain, but at least it's in a joke that gives you a positive response!). It's time for me to transfer this from the cyberworld to the real world however. Thank you Dean for showing how that can be achieved! Living it is the hard part, but it's achievable.

Dean,
As a grief counselor, real grief is just that, real, and needs to be processed. Grief is a period in ones life, but it should not become "Our Story".
We need to listen consciously to "Our Story" because our subconscious hears it every time we tell it and is determined to make it true.
So be aware, When you are asked "Hey how is it going" and you reply "Insert positive experiences and sharing here, BUT........"
the BUT..... is "Your Story".
If all you say it the "Insert positive experiences and sharing here" then that is "Your Story"

Your Story becomes Your Life.
Which live do you want to live?

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Final thought:
Watch your thoughts; They become words,
Watch your words; They become actions,
Watch your actions; They become habits,
Watch your habits; They become character,
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

I was just having this conversation with my brother over the weekend about how you don't want to hang around family members and friends who only talk about how bad other people are doing. That type of talk brings you down and sucks the good mood out of the room. I do my best to avoid people who choose to continue to talk in this manner. I have goals and dreams and I now consciously avoid 'dream-stealers' whether they be family or so-called friend.

Hi Dean,
My name is Vanessa Hollenbeck.
I honestly have been watching as many hours as I can, reading what I can get my hands on from online, and libary.
I dont think I have slept in days. lol

Then I finally got to go to your amazing workshop on the 20th! Oh how I loved it!

The only thing is. I am a traveling hippie. I do have friends but non of us make any real cash.

I also am an Energy Healing Bodyworker. I heal people all the time for free. And to pay rent and get food.

I dont want to live like this anymore. I want to help my Hippie homeless family around the world get off to a better start instead of thinking you can't do anything but make the best of were you are.

Last year I made $5,000, lived out of my car and off the beach. You would never catch me in a bad mood. I live to help others and in return they helped me with food or what ever I happend to need a few days later.

I gave to not get back and so did they! It's a beautiful way to live.

Ok, I came to Fort Wayne, In Jan 27th at 2am. It was so so cold. I didnt know anyone. But, I had met 1 friend in Ca for 5 min.
I can here to visit and get to know him for 2 days before I drove to find some were else. I dont know why I started living this way. I travel to live. I didnt belong anywere or really to anyone. To no one but my hippie, traveler, gypsy's, nomads. Were called houseless people because we are happy to live this way. Most of the time its just no light at the end of the tunnel and no real way out. Then theres Homeless people. Same proplem exp. they dont like living this way.

Dean, I dont really know what to ask you.
I want to be a student of yours. I WILL work so so hard. Not just for myself but, to show my family if I can do it so can they and we dont have to live in the streets anymore.

Is there anytips that can help me earn some fast cash so I can buy your amazing student pkg? I swear I will be prob one of your best students. Or at least I will try! I can see how much money this will make me. I can see my furture. I know if I follow you when the new depression hits it wont be as bad for me and everyone who follows you 100%.

I don't have a phone really at this sec. Not enough cashflow. Sorry.
But, I found an online text only # (619) 878-7461

Or, if you know someone who prob would give a hippie a personal loan just for enough to buy your amazing student training. I will Love you even more if this is even possible. I don't care how high the interest is. I will pay it back in less than 3 months. Because I know if I apply myself to your training. I WILL beable to make enough to pay it back and money to save myself and my family!

Thankyou,
Vanessa Hollenbeck

Thank You Dean,
I really needed to hear your message "Checking Yourself." It was a great pick me upper. I don't just want to lay there in the ditch with others; I'll pick myself up and climb out of the ditch with others.

Thank you again.
Evangeline

Short and sweet...

I have been watching these for 6 months now and Man..I could see you holding back the tears!! I felt every word you said..We all have this happening in our closest family circles!!

I have been up and positive most of my life (thanks to GOD)..And I lost my Father and Baby brother by 30 years old.

Just brought back memories of the good times.. And a little tear to the edge of my eye watching you express your feelings (but showing the real feelings inside on camera) ... I know it hurts inside to get with the people you love and feel there pain and see their lives that could be better..

Great work though on trying to change their channel!!!

That's what I get from you every week...INSPIRATION to go out and help everyone you can while your here!!!

Stay Cool and Thanks for some REAL sharing

The FrogMan

Wow. lol. We have been programmed to focus on negativity and to have pity parties. And no that is not being insensitive to people who are dying, have cancer or whatever, but again we just think its normal to focus on bad things and the negative. It takes great courage to say Im going to be different and focus on the good. If people learn how to focus on the good, their stress levels will go down, depression would decrease and overall people would live more happier and joyful lives, and living happy and joyful is how it should be. Sometimes you do have to interfere or even walk away from people who are stuck in talking about negativity all the time. They may not like it, but so what? Its not being selfish, you are simply protecting yourself from their poison of negativity!

This was another outstanding WW Dean, it's amazing how people even people close to use focus on the bad. " As a man thinketh so is he"
clearly we have a choice in what we think and do with our conversation. Well I love my family and friends or people I meet, but I refuse to operate in fear or talk in negativity. So many people kill there own dreams and opputunities for prosperity by just how they talk. Well as we say on the street " keep it pushin " that goes for all the haters,naysayers,and life stealers. Again Dean well done on another awesome WW, as you bless us may you contiue to be blessed. Love ya DG Family

PEACE,LOVE AND LIVE LIFE

young Money

Oh yes!! We have to have boundaries. We can be loving & supportive and still not become trapped in the ditch. We can acknowledge sad things (like a grandma's passing), but then we should put a positive spin on it by remembering all the good that came of being allowed to even have that person/grandma touching our life. I appreciate how you encourage people. I heard you saying that we are allowed to acknowledge our sadness, and then we lift ourselves up by remembering to be grateful for all the goodness in life. It's healthy to acknowledge sadness, and it's also healthy to refuse to wallow in it. It's uplifting to remember to be grateful for goodness, and it's EXCELLENT to put a positive spin on every single aspect of life. Silver linings exist for those who *want* to find them!!

Thanks for a good reminder Dean. I told a niece recently to 'let it go' when she complained about resenting a person in our lives. I said that he gets off knowing he irritates people. Don't go down to his level. Toxic people do not belong in our thoughts or emotions - they aren't worth our time or energy.

Yes, there are all kinds of DITCHES, and one I will admit is negative conversation and I am guilty big time. I have been going over the DOS homework and will do it again till I get it right. Thanks for being an inspiration to me.

Thank you! Yes! We need to keep conversations positive!

Thank you for sharing this experience Dean.
You have inspired me, again here!

HOW did you do that? ?

I am rather positive and I rarely ever talk negative in public, I'm the farthest away from that guy you are sharing here,,,, but

I don't have the guts to do what you did, my friend, in those situations, the best I know how, is to mention positives about the topic and try to bring the conversation back to the positive and hopeful.

Confronting to that would be too much for me, I respect your courage and what you did. Just wanna say you are awesome and very inspirational. We need more leaders like you all around us.

Thank you again for sharing the wisdom.
I want to be more like you, and do what you do,

Tess

Thoughts = ideas = feelings = actions = results! So we all must keep our thoughts positive to have positive, great results!
You are also right about people using those conversations to make themselves feel that their situation is better than the other person, & this has to do with low self-esteem.
Enjoy your day!
Barb

great stuff Dean, thanks

Excellent WW! so true! most of the time you're so used to the negative, that it is almost natural to engage in or expect to hear and discuss "it". I believe this is what separates the haves from the have nots. Attitude!!!

Thanks Dean for the video.

It can be easy to slip back into a remedial state of mind. It is imperative to not only think positive, but be positive.

Our actions speak louder than words and if we can just grasp the vision I believe that success in merely a second away.

As a man thinks in his heart; so is he. Death and life are in the power of the tongue.

I can be very critical at time and this continual self-examination will help me keep my conversation and actions in check.

Thanks again Dean.

Dean,

Thank you for your words of wisdom. You've really hit the nail on the head this week. We all encounter times in life when we face sad news. And sometimes we have to do more than just think about or talk about sad events. Perhaps we have to take care of funeral arrangements, etc. But even then we can honor that person more by focusing on how they have added to our life, instead of focusing on how we are going to miss them. That has more to do with us than them because we're usually feeling sorry for ourselves because we will miss them.

But many times our sadness is self-inflicted. Like dwelling on the conversations of who all died (as you mentioned) or watching sad movies that manipulate our emotions and can bring us down.

Whenever I start feeling sad, I just say to myself "Stop it!!" and then I immediately redirect my attention (my thoughts) to those things in my life that I'm most grateful for instead. You can't be happy and sad at the same time. And you can't be sad when you're counting your blessings.

Happiness *is* a choice. It's not what happens to us that matters but how we react to it that determines our level of happiness. If someone isn't happy it's because they haven't made the decision to be happy.

I *choose* to be happy. And I recommend it!

Be happy!

Jason

Dean,
I laughed a little listening to the weekly wisdom. But you are right, and we gotta guard our atmosphere that way.Good for you. And I didn't know the government was shut down lest someone had told me. Are they back up yet? Well, I just agree with you, and I'm better at keeping away from negativity, but working on getting as bold as you. You ah'ite wit me dude!

Great message

My parents have both been dealing with an unbelievable amount of physical difficulty over the last month (This has been difficult for the whole family). My Dad's issues are mounting, and yet his attitude is positive, and his sense of humor intact!

The family has all been together more lately, and we laugh and enjoy each other. We talk about what's right not always what's wrong. About how lucky we are that we still have Mom and Dad and that we are able to help them.

My dad has always been a master at redirecting negative conversation without the person responsible even realizing it. I love that.

He is my inspiration. Some people do this naturally and some have to work at it more. It is a matter of reminding ourselves to be happy and positive... on purpose! Choose better thoughts and conversation...it truly makes us happier

Have a great week!!

Each comment made was even better than the previous one. I have a friend who I call just to chat, but she listens to some downer on the radio in r\the middle of the night and then wonders why she can't sleep! She is an unsuccessful realtor and wonders and complains about it. She doesn't have a tiny clue. So it's a waste of my time. I have another friend who would like to do DG but wastes her money and time at Starbucks. She is looking for a house but won't listen to my suggestions. So....

So keep on smiling. (that was on my Dad's calling cards.) Pretty good advice, but sometimes hard to follow?

I choose to live in the light. Not in the dark.

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. - Edith Wharton

love it Dean,
everyone has the power to listen up and speak up. your so right, be that one to step out. Dean, continue bringing a difference to the DG Family
Enjoy & Until

Over the years just listening to your words of wisdom, it has to be great just working in your office so that when they come to work i know they have to get a boost just being around you and i can only guess but the rest of the people have to have a great attitude toward life and maybe that is why your always get so much done in your reaching for greatness at all times.
Anyway keep up the great conversations.. Thanks Fran

Thanks Dean for sharing that. You are absolutely right. Thanks for being bold enough to share that with us.

every week you give such a great piece of yourself in these little moments for us. I just want to thank you for your drive to get us all on board with your program. its a great way to think and live a good life. thank you mr g. herbie

Well Spoken Dean
I hope i can explain it that well to the many Negative people in my inner circle. I needed that
woowhoo