I Am So Disappointed In Myself!

Hello Sheila, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. My grandfather also had prostate cancer. I think your husband really needs you right now, he needs you to be strong. Like you said it is a set back, but only a set back. I know it may seem hard, but you need to turn this speed bump into motivation. Make your husband your main focus for your second focus....Real estate. Just think how much better the situation could be if you were financially secure and did not have to worry about money. I truly believe your account handle says it all. "Wealthy Blessings". I can tell you are a strong person, just hold onto your faith and do not forget what really matters in life.....Your family. Stay strong, stay motivated, don't give up and you can never fail.

Best wishes, Cody

YR STUCK POSITION IS TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE..BUT IF YOU HAVE ANY FAITH-BELIEF AT ALL PLEASE START HANGING UNTO IT RIGHT NOW FOR DEAR LIFE, IF YOU WILL, AND TRY REALLY HARD(CAUSE IT IS HARD) TO SEE A MENTAL PICTURE OF HIS RECOVERY AND YOUR WELL-BEING..(I KNOW EASIER SAID THEN DONE-TRY NOT TO BELIEVE ANYTHING THAT TELLS YOU THAT MAYBE ITS GODS WILL-RELIGION NOT RELATIONSHIP W/OUR CREATOR). I DONT KNOW ALL THE SPECIFICS BUT I DO KNOW THAT THAT WORD CANCER IS VERY SCARY, EVEN GOD KNOWS ITS SCARY TO BE US SOMETIMES. ITS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE THAT DR.S ARENT GOD AND IT DOESNT HAVE TO BE SET IN STONE....IM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE ALIVE BUT I AM AND FOR ME IT WAS RAISING 3 CHILDREN TOTALLY ALONE(NO FAMILY OR EX-SUPPORT) THE REAL DEAL SINGLE MOTHER AND I THINK AS I SUFFERED FOR 5 YEARS OF LITERALLY BLEEDING LIKE A STUCK PIG(YEAH, GROSS BUT LITERALLY)I COULDNT STOP WORKING OR DOING EVERYTHING TO TAKE CARE OF MY 3 LOVES CAUSE THERE WAS NO ONE BUT ME..I WAS LITERALLY PULLED DOWN AS THE PARAMEDICS CAME GOT ME AND THEY AND THE DRS WERE AMAZED THAT NOT ONLY I WAS ALIVE BUT THAT I WAS FUNCTIONING AT ANY CAPACITY..AND THAT ONE I SAY WAS SHEER WILL POWER FOR MY 3 LOVES; FOR WHERE WOULD THEY HAVE BEEN HAD I NOT BEEN THERE FOR THEM...WE HAD NO ONE TO HELP, OR COUNT ON..I TELL YOU THIS NOT FOR SYMPATHY BUT FOR STRENGTH..HE CAN LIVE AND NOT DIE, HE CAN BE HEALED, YOU CAN ATTAIN VISION, HOPE, FAITH, STRENGTH AND NOMATTER THE OUTCOME..YOU CAN GO THRU CAUSE OF YR INNER BELIEF, FAITH..I ONLY HAD GOD AND HE WAS ENOUGH..YOUR IN MY PRAYERS OKAY!!! DONT BE SO SET ON IT BEING REAL BLACK AND WHITE..DR'S ARENT GOD! 3 SPECIALIST WERE CONFOUNDED..SAYING HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE THAT SHES STILL ALIVE..NOONE W/A BLOOD COUNT UNDER 12 LIVES AND SHES RUNNING ON 5...SSHHH..SHEER LOVE FOR MY BABIES AND SHEER HOPE IN GOD...THE SOONER YOU DECIDE TO BELIEVE FOR A POSITIVE OUTCOME, THE SOONER THE FUNK WILL LEAVE...NOT SAYING THAT ITS EASY...NOT SAYING THAT YOU'LL EVEN FEEL GOOD BUT SAYING THAT YOU MUST FOR YOURSELF AND FOR HIM AND FOR YOUR FAMILY, YOU CAN DO IT.XOXOXOX

i know how you feel, but everything in God's timing, not ours. i have to work real hard sometimes to believe that, but it's what i hang onto right now. i should have had some deals by now myself, but with Mom's terminal cancer, her death (10 years longer than the doctors ever expected) and my own serious health issues, i haven't closed a deal as an REI. i did close one as a new realtor in September, which helps me a little. then i had to go to Tulsa for a month most of September to help my daughter with a new baby. now i'm going back again a month later because my son is deploying early and his leave starts Friday and Tulsa is home. so.....no sense in struggling with it; i am learning to go with the flow. i WILL do my deals and i WILL get my money back from the Academy. you WILL do deals and your husband IS all ready healed!!! love you, DG sister! hang in there.

Sorry to hear about your husband. My advice would be to just live in the present moment. What I mean by that is leave the past in the past there is no way to change anything there. Don't worry about the future because it's not here yet (anxiety)...Just live each day and do what needs to be done. Try to meditate a little early in the morning before everyone gets up. Maybe read Deans books and success stories to keep you motivated. Something will click for you when you stop trying so hard... Just have faith it will all work out the way it is supposed to. Just know all things are possible with God.
Barbara

We all get stuck and fearful. Sometimes it makes perfect sense that we get stuck in our worries because of the kinds of things you are dealing with, but the point is how do we go forward. Instead of looking at the end result, take one step at a time and ask yourself, "What can I do on this day?" Just keep taking small steps forward. In horse training if you can't get a horse to move forward because they are afraid or not sure, you get them to take a small step sideways they move a little and then start going forward again. So what can you do to take a small step to the side so you are at least not moving backwards, on days that you feel hopeless and afraid? Keep positive and keep visualizing what you want to have happen in all realms of your life.

All the best!
Charisse

Sheila,

I very sorry to hear about your husband. I really do hope that it was caught with time so that he can take the needed steps to pull out of that. I have a friend that was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer and is free from it today because he got serious about getting rid of it. I hope and pray that your husband has that chance.

It is hard to tell you that things will work out for the best and I’m sure that the whole family wishes you and your husband rapid recovery if it is possible. Place your trust in our Creator and lean on him every day and follow the directions of your doctors and Pray. That is the best way to cope with something this huge.

As for your real estate business, congratulations on finishing the classrooms. Little by little, as time allows, take what you have learned and apply it. Take one step at a time and do it for you and for him. Step by step will give you something positive to think about and do to move you closer to your life goals.

I’m sure when I say that we are all praying for you and him and we wish you the best, keep it together and you will succeed in both counts.

Gene

what a great group of people and a great source of support!

Such good advice and words given. Yeah, we all want to succeed and we get disappointed and frustrated when it doesn't happen as quickly as we want.

But, as has already been said - some things in life are more important than others.

Take care of you and your husband -

Mike

I'm sorry that you and your husband are going through this. However you are facing it together and will be all the much stronger for it. Please know that you are in my prayers as well as many folks on this site. As far as REI goes be gentle with yourself right now. Take on day at a time. You will get there.

Lea

Sorry to hear about your husband, will keep him in our prayers!

I know how I got unstuck when I was in the academy. I had to take what I learned, get over the fear and start making offers. If you are not making offers you have no chance of making any money or learning more that you can from a book or website. You must learn how to qualify deals quickly and don't waste time on deals that won't work. How do you learn this? Making offers and learning from each one.

Now get out there!!

Michael Mangham
MD Home Acquisitions LLC

Hello Shelia I'm just adding to the support that have already been given to you but as I have gone through my self empowering I have learned that when things seen to be bad or devestating they really aren't. But the key to getting through them and coming out a winner is being and staying positive staying positive, having strong faith,and being happy at all times. when you start to feeling bad you allow negativity to come in which allows doubt and when there's doubt you lose any and every thing you need to be successful and victory over sickness,illness, and financial success,and happiness. So what ever you do please stay positive,increase your faith and as you've already been told take some time to youeself relax your mind and focus.See yourself
has as it has already happened wtih you being successful in real estate and your husband being healed and you all celebrating the positive things or wins that you all have won victory over all of what you thought were set backs.

Hi, Sheila.
Really sorry that you and your husband are going thru this most
difficult time.I know it`s easy to say, and not so easy to do, but
I`ve found that in my tuffest struggles is when I`m most thankful
that someone far greater than I is orchestrating my life. that may
sound strange, but having been thru some tuff stuff myself, this
rings true for me.Lean on HIM ,and just be there for your hubby,
and things will work out.Keep the faith #1 realestate#2 don`t give
you`ll get there.I`m almost thru the academy too,but haven`t got my
first deal either,but I know perseverence will get us there.
GOD Bless ,DerrickW from Canada

Hello DG family.
I really do love this website,and the people on it.So much info and
support.Incredible sucessful investing stories.I would really like to
connect with anyone else in this program from Canada tho.It would really
boost my confidence to know that someone else from here is sucessful
with this program. DerrickW

What you are going through is no easy thing to deal with. Don't be mad at yourself for not making a deal yet. You've been pretty busy taking care of your husband! So many people here have said and given wonderful advice already, but I want to add a verse that my grandma lived by. It is what I look to when negativity creeps into my mind. Meditate on it and memorize it, and let it remind you of where to keep your mind. I'm going to go off memory;
Philippians 4:8
Finally brethern, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is pure, whatever is admirable, whatever is honorable whatever is lovely, whatever is right, whatever is of good repute, if there is any EXCELLENCE and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind DWELL on these things!

You will have the rest of your life to focus on REI, spend this time with your husband and don't get mad at yourself because life hits you with something beyond your control. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 (I started typing without really thinking and this verse came out; its the first one I ever memorized!)

I'm sorry to hear about your husband. As everyone said here, I don't think I can say it better. We are here to support each other. Really Watch Dean's video from Blog #96 titled "Are Your On The Path To Greatness?".

Think about how far you are, now. You're in the Success Academy, think about that title for a moment.

SUCCESS Academy. You are successful because you took action, sure you may not have a deal locked down but that's okay! your deal will come in time, but really think about where you are now and give yourself a pat on the back.

You're facing the time that need you to be happy & healthy. So you can pull you two through this trial.
I heard cancer is afraid of heat & oxygen. Get warm (not too hot) sunshine every day .Do deep breathing to increase the oxygen in your cells.

There is a retired lady doctor in Taiwan who has survived cancer for over 30years.Her name is Dr. Lee Feng. She always advises cancer patients to go hiking to the mountain to get enough oxygen. But in US, we have much bigger space than Taiwan. lots of places have enough trees, grass, ets. we can get more oxygen much easier than people in Taiwan.

She also did experiments and found out when we are happy our cells are most beautiful & healthy. We need to laugh & watch comedy, and relax. Forget cancer. Kick it out of your mind. Concentrate on happy things, tell yourself you'll be healthy.Our mind can program our body. If you deeply believe you'll be dead. Your brain will program you to die.She does meditation every day to do breathing exercise & relax the brain & the body. it takes the body, the mind and the spirit to work together to conquer cancer.

Of course you need to discuss with your doctor, too. I heard that CoQ10 is very important in fighting cancer, too. It gives the patients more energy to fight cancer. But I'm not a doctor. You can call Life Extension Foundation at 1-800-226-2370 or 1-800-544-4440 to ask for advisors. Everyone's body is different. You need to discuss with your doctor, too.

Boy oh boy oh boy, do i ever know the feeling. I joined the DG group aug 09 and have yet to do my first deal. I sometimes think there is something wrong with me and that i perhaps just don't get it. That among other thoughts. When those thoughts come i work to banish the thoughts that could cripple me and keep me in the funk. I have to ask myself if what i am saying, doing or thinking is going to help me or benefit my REI career. If the answer is no then i must put it away from me. I thank God for Dean because he is an inspiration and great motivator and i believe in him. I am very much alone except for my parrots and my little american eskimo dog Hallie Punkin because she is not well. I am trying to keep her with me as long as i can. I have some other major concerns but i refuse to let anything get me down. What i decided to do is think about what needs to be done and set priorities. I am putting my focus on the most important things. So first let me say i will pray for your husband and his prostrate cancer and i will pray for you that you will have the strength and the courage to get thru this time in your life and overcome. There is hope. You must have hope. The situation is not hopeless. You must believe. When i came online this evening i pulled your post up first thing and read each response. What a wonderful and supportive group of people we have on this site. We are not just anybody. What came to my mind was "Onward Christian Soldiers" What a Friend we have in Jesus - Take it to the Lord in Prayer. Yes think on whatever is true, lovely, pure and more. All of the above. I did go look at two houses this morning. The obstacles for me are the money, short sales, foreclosure, the banks and the things that the agent says. One house is next to hwy 50 and is gutted forclosure held by freddie-mac priced at 99,900. and would be worth appr 165,000. fmv or arv. I live several blocks further away from the freeway in the same model of house. Before the housing market slid south my house was appr 385,000. When the market prices go back up it would be a good deal. Location near freeway not good. The other property was a short sale that needed cleanup and tlc. priced 90,000. comps in area 140,000. - 180,000. I am just trying to take in all the info and put things together to make things happen. I have to get my first deal before dec 31st. Its a very scarry time for me so i will practice what i preach and that is to take it to the Lord in prayer. May God Bless and Keep you in your time of need.

Wow.....I can't say "thank you" enough! The support, motivation, and encouragement from everyone is such a blessing to me and my husband. Our DG Family is awesome!

Thank you again...

Peace and Blessings,
Sheila and Darrell

Sheila -- I am so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. Remember to keep the faith. Dean and DG family are all here to support you and each other. I am a newbie here, and am happy to have found such an amazing group of like-minded individuals.

Here's to your success...see you at the top!

The best way to get through this period is to be very supportive and also to continue to involve your husband in the daily activities of real estate investing. When his mind is occupied, there will be little time to get stressed. That does not mean that the entire cause will go away, because we are only human. Fear, worry, desperation and other thoughts will come to mind, but do not let them control either you or your husband's faith in God. Remember, he promised that he will provide all our needs and ease all our pains. We have to rely on him and his word and everything will be okay. We also have to pray for each other that one great day, we will have the opportunity to all meet together as the DG family and enjoy and get to know each other better. Sheila, all the best to you and your family. I will keep you all in my prayer.

Sandra